Getting Out of Balance
by Dr. Donald E. Wetmore
The underlying core of my more than 2,000 Time Management
presentations during the last twenty years has been the concept of "balance."
Success in managing our time has less to do with the tools available
to us, such as "to do lists" and techniques for delegation, as it has
to do with achieving daily balance in our lives. If we are not in balance
to begin with, we are likely to sabotage our success. Successful Time
Management, then, has a lot to do with what we are not doing.
Here's my list of the seven best ways to "Get Out of Balance."
- Ignore your health.
Don't get the quantity and quality of sleep you require.
Don't take time for exercise. Eat the wrong stuff. (90% of those who
join Health and Fitness Clubs today will stop going within the next
90 days.) Your resistance level will be reduced and you will be susceptible
to all the latest sniffles and flues going around to ensure that you
take advantage of all the sick days you are allowed. Seventy five percent
of all adult deaths are preventable. We are literally driving ourselves
to early graves in these "hurry-up, stressful" lives of ours.
It's interesting that when someone gets a new car, they
bring it in for the scheduled maintenance, put the right grade of fuel
in the tank, and keep it shiny and clean. Our pets visit the veterinarian
on a scheduled basis. In a recent study, 34% of the men surveyed said
they would not go to the doctor even if they were experiencing chest
- Postpone family time.
They will always be there for you anyway when you get
the time for them. A student once asked me, "what is the best way to
take my four year old on vacation?" I replied, "You take her when she's
four years old." Fifty percent of marriages wind up in divorce court.
Imagine, getting married at age twenty-five and twenty years later,
at age forty-five, you give up 50% of everything you have worked for
in your adult life in a property settlement in divorce court. It's like
the squirrel, gathering the nuts, hoarding away while someone is drilling
a hole in the side of the tree to let all the nuts escape. The squirrel
is too busy to hear the impending threat. The average working person
spends less than two minutes per day in meaningful communication with
their spouse or "significant other" and less than thirty seconds per
day in meaningful communication with their children.
- Don't plan your financial life.
Be assured that your employer, and if not, then the government,
and if not, then maybe a kindly relative will take care of your needs.
Most people arrive at the end of life financially deficient or dependent
upon some type of assistance from the government or relatives. Most
people do not spend a little of their time, on a regular basis, to create
financial freedom and live their lives they way they "want to", but
rather do what do because they "have to". Eighty percent do not want
to go to work on Monday morning. Ninety-seven percent say that if they
did achieve financial freedom, they would not continue with their current
employer or in their current line of work.
- Stay away from intellectual development.
You have the degree. You read books at one time. Five
percent of the population purchases ninety-five percent of all the books.
The other ninety-five purchase the other five percent of the books.
They don't have time to read them. They give them away as gifts. You
barely have enough time to keep your head above water, what with work
and other interests. Coast with the knowledge you have. It's draining
away from you daily, but hopefully you filled the reservoir enough early
on that it will carry you through your life.
- Let your social contacts decide your future.
Follow the advice of your friends about what you should
be doing in your life even if they are not in a place where you would
want to be. Be ever conscious of "What would my friends say/think if
I did . . . ?" Always seek out and act only with the approval of your
peers. Take comfort in the knowledge that when there is a void in leadership
in your life on how you should be spending your time, someone else will
fill that void and tell you what to do.
- Let your professional life just happen.
Do not establish a lifetime plan of where you want to
go. Take whatever opportunity and advancement life gives you and be
satisfied. Don't rock the boat. Seek the familiar and avoid the strange.
Play it safe. Make it comfortable. If you chose a career path when you
were eighteen or twenty years old, and now at age forty you are unhappy,
don't consider a change. Hold on to that decision you made twenty years
ago. It will be like going to a twenty year old for career counseling.
- Avoid spending time in your spiritual area.
Not only in a formal religious venue, but also in our
relationships to others, our community, our environment, and the universe.
Leave those questions to others to ponder. "When man forgets his Creator,
his own creations will turn upon him."
Dr. Donald E. Wetmore, a full-time Professional Speaker,
is one of the foremost experts on Time Management and Personal Productivity
and the author of "Beat the Clock".
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